With profound gratitude to the many authors who helped me along my path so far, I am truly happy to be able to confidently proclaim that I am a neuroplasticity success story. I discovered this on February 2, 2021, when I opened Daniel J. Siegel’s Mindsight: The New Science of Transformation, and simply started reading as I hadn’t done since March 3, 2003, when I suffered a traumatic brain injury in an automobile accident.

The process of getting to this point in my journey is laden with struggle and pain, but my healing struggles pale in comparison to my life…


Have you lost loved ones to the Donald Trump presidency? Have family members or friends you care about stopped talking to you? If so, I want to hear your story.

In March of this year, my entire extended family stopped communicating with me. My mother is the type of person who calls almost daily. She hasn’t called since my dad was released from the hospital in early March. They simply detached from me.

I know why, but no one in my family will admit it. There’s a direct connection between a political dispute between one family member and me that…


I haven’t written for The Art of Healing from Trauma for several months. Frankly, my life shattered into tiny pieces scattered about the country because of this pandemic (and Donald Trump). I had to take time away from life to get my head on straight, or I was facing imminent risk of peril.

I am happy to say I found my way out. I have sloughed most of the residuals of trauma, and I’ve realized enormous improvements to my physical health in the process. I’m so close to being totally free — emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually — that I sense…


Writing can change your life. It changed mine in ways nothing else could have, but it took great effort to learn a process that grounds me in writing.

We all experience traumas big and small, relationship problems, emotional dramas, and other barriers to personal fulfillment. You can write your way out of anything! What approach you use depends on the situation you’re addressing. If someone hurt or angered you, perhaps a letter will suffice. If you’re struggling with internal issues — self-esteem, motivation, even depression or anxiety — befriend journaling. …


This novel coronavirus pandemic will touch every American in some way. It will change us in ways we may not anticipate. We will all suffer. Some will both survive an infection and lose loved ones. Others will escape infection to sit helplessly by as loved ones perish. We will all suffer hardships as demand for goods and services outpaces supply.

The economic fallout will be devastating for most Americans. The emotional toll has already begun for many and will continue to rise. I see fear, panic, profound sadness, despair. I also see anger, vengeance, blame. I have seen families ripped…


Smack dab in the middle of what I believed would become my suicide note, a light went off in my head, prompted by marijuana. In this respect, I can rightfully say marijuana played a part in saving my life. Writing the note was the catalyst, but I might have overlooked the escape hatch if I hadn’t been stoned.

I am a medical marijuana patient. I was forced off seizure medication after contracting medication-induced lupus. That medication, according to my neurologist, was the last class of seizure meds my body hadn’t already rejected, leaving me only two options: I could either…


The United States currently faces the worst threat to our system of governance in history: our president and his bevy of sycophants. The 2020 presidential election is perhaps the most important election U.S. voters have ever faced. This year’s votes will decide whether we remain a free, law-abiding, constitutionally guided democracy, or cede full control to the despotic, oppressive regime currently infecting the nation.

Crucial to the outcome of this year’s election is disseminating honest, unbiased information, lacking any flourishment or conflation of facts. Voters are desperate to make the right choice to end this administration’s grip. Because people have…


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Imagine being an author in the early nineteenth century. You must pen your manuscript, because the first typewriter wasn’t invented until 1867 and wasn’t widely marketed until a decade later. Twentieth-century authors had increasingly helpful tools: electric typewriters, word processors, and self-publishing options. In 2020, time-saving apps for writing abound, and many are free.

Tools for Writing

Dictionary/Thesaurus: The internet gives you immediate access to reference materials. A dictionary, online or print, is essential to every writer. Language changes with time. New…


Under guise of protection, looking toward the abyss

Samantha was four years old when her father strangled her mother and shot her two brothers. She has no recall of the event or her lost family members. Twenty-two years later, her own son is shot by his father, her abusive husband. This is not coincidental. Many children who are abused or who witness extreme violence early in life are drawn to abusive partners in adolescence and adulthood. There’s a reason for this: Abuse changes the anatomy and chemistry of the brain, impeding the ability to sense danger and respond appropriately. It locks memories in an air-tight vault. It blinds…


Somewhere between the stark light of purity and the bleak abyss of despair lies wisdom: a lackluster capote to the vibrant substrate of life. Reach, and you will find me. I am everywhere, and I am nowhere. I am all the things you aspire to be and all the things you fear.

When we meet, you won’t recognize me. You might even begrudge my residence in your mind. I’ll persist, nonetheless, for once we meet, you are mine.

I am everywhere. I live in the sweet scent of lavender, your scrumptious table fare, the silk of a baby’s skin, the…

Pam Boling

Passionate Photographer | Adventurous Spirit | Wannabe World Traveler

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